The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around — and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness.
When I was young I used to hear Torn by Natalie Imbruglia (one hit wonder, trust me you know the song) and when the part “lying naked on the floor” came on my dad would always ask me “why is she naked on the floor?” I’d always reply idk, thinking it was something sexual. Now I realize it’s because she’s broken, open and exposed. And this is a lesson my dad was too afraid to teach me himself. He let music take the place of it and I honestly have to say I respect him for that.